Considering the my last thoughts were anxiety filled, overwhelming, and questioning myself (again), I thought it was time to just keep this short and positiveish. It will be a while before I have the chance to write, grad school ending, surgery, a lot of decisions to make, before I know it, it will be fall, which will bring even more changes. So with a deep breath I will say that it has been quite the summer so far, and I'll sum it up shortly.
1. In a week, 6 credits of grad work will be under my belt. One step closer to my Masters in Counseling (and a bit of addition to my salary;)
2. Upcoming surgery August 11th. I pray all goes well,and that I am making the right decision. It's been a long time coming, medically necessary and I know I will feel so much better, it's something I can do for myself.
3. Lots of relaxing during the first part of summer, lots of running (pain free!), and lots of reading really good books.
4. Lots of stressing, major anxiety, and a lot left to figure out.
5. Getting ready to move out. Asserting my independence, is something I still struggle with, but I have to learn that its all going to be ok. I am adult now, and am capable of making informed adult decisions, with or without family support, I have to know I can do it.
6. Looking forward to catching up with people that I don't see often, somehow summer always slips away from me, and my free days seem few and far between. I hope people will realize that a big flaw of mine is not being able to balance. I value people in my life very much, and try to be very loyal and be a good friend, and I have to hope, at this point in my life, prolonged time and distance, doesn't get held against me. Instead, it makes you appreciate the time together that much more. I will become better at balance one day.
8. Lost my 15lbs I wanted to....a bit further to go, but a good start.
9. I love my new present to myself, my blackberry, and really don't know how I lived without it all this time.
10. Thankful for my grandparents, and while they struggle and have been sick a lot this summer, they are still here and alive, and that is more than most people have.
11. Extremely thankful, and grateful for good friends, who help pave the way for me to find myself, who I am, what I want, what is best for me and what I deserve. Their unconditional listening, understanding and support of me and their ways of always seeming to believe in me, more than I believe in myself, time and time again, makes me feel extraordinarily lucky and perhaps a bit hopeful, even on my worst day.
Till whenever....
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Monday, July 20, 2009
New Horizons
I find myself having less time to update, I guess that is a good sign of being busy. Having said that.....
On some days, I feel fiercely independent, ready to take on the next 10 years of a lot of change and a lot of new adventures. But sometimes, I can hardly breathe, I find it hard to get up in the morning. I just feel heavy and defeated. It's just too much. It's hard to talk about it, because I cannot really explain it fully. It's like I feel trapped. But who understands that? I wonder what people REALLY think of me. I wonder if I will ever feel like a good enough person, and teacher and friend. When will I stop questioning if I am good enough? When will giving 100% to everything and everyone, doing my very best and being fiercely determined and loyal pay off? Not that I need it to "pay off" in a certain way, or get some reward, that is not what I mean at all...just reassurance, that all these characteristics I have in me, are good ones, that they are driving me towards my goals, that my compassion and hard work is worth something. Although maybe it already is, and I just cannot see it yet. I wonder if I will get to that place that everyone else seems to be at....just a place of happiness and contentment and accomplishing their goals, and when they fall having someone around to catch them unconditionally. It probably doesn't even make sense outloud, I just, cannot get it out in words these days outloud, so writing gets it off my chest I guess. I wish it would all go away sometimes, I wonder who would notice, who would care.
Well, Graduate school is in full swing, and I on most days I enjoy it. I forgot what REAL school was like. I am stressed with two classes, granted they are summer classes, 15 weeks squished into 6, I cannot even remember what it was like to take four and five classes in a semester at MSU. How did I do it??? And how did I 4.0 my way through it? I guess that was my job at that point and I really didn't think too much about it, just got into a routine. I really do like my classes though. Grad school is not hard, so far. Just a lot of reading, writing papers. One of my classes though is very interactive, I really enjoy it. Just with these first two classes, I already know that going for Counseling is the right thing for me. I enjoy it so much, on so many different levels. I like learning about something new; not just Spanish, curriculum, literacy, which I have learned about over and over. Not that you ever stop learning but this gives me a new perspective, a new environment, a new way to think about things, and really there is no better satisfaction that academic success, I truly thrive on it, and my 100%'s on my first quizzes and in-person counseling interviews, are the only thing these days that make me feel really good. School is what I am good at, I know I always have that to count on.
I am headed for surgery on August 11th. The day will finally come. I have wanted this for 10 years, and there is not one bit of me that is nervous. I pray that things go well and there are no complications, but I think this is one of those events that will be a turning point for me. I wrote the biggest check I have ever written in my entire life, and now things are official. It is almost surreal. I hope this leads me towards everything I hope it will.
After several weeks of things going really well, I find myself turning inward. I feel myself turning inward. I have learned through my classes actually that this is a long established defense mechanism of mine, turning inward and a sense of humor to deflect what I am actually feeling. It's interesting analyzing myself, although as my professor always says, "everyone now and then needs a check up from the neck up." I turn inward so I don't have to face reality. I turn inward to protect myself from getting hurt and lied to. I turn inward as a learned behavior that I have having been so burned in the past, and struggled so much with feeling like a worthless and defeated person. I laugh off my perfectionist personality, but it acts as a protector from failure and rejection. These both can sometimes come off as being angry, stand-offish. Certainly not intentional emotions, but effects of the defense mechanism ingrained in me. I am fully aware that I have many irrational thoughts about myself...that I have to be perfect, that there is only one right answer to every difficult situation, that I have to try to please everyone all the time....but changing our thought processes, is not an easy task. Even through therapy it takes time and effort to change those automatic thoughts we have about ourselves.
My goal is to focus on the here and now and replace some of those automatic negative thoughts with positive ones. There are so many paths my life can take this summer...one decision effects the rest. So which is the path that I should take? What do I do? What do I know? Not a huge religious person, but right now I kind of wish I was, maybe I need some divine intervention. But right now, I turn inward because it is what I know. I am struggling talking, to even those closest to me. I know it may come off as avoidance, I hope when I come back, people will understand that it was not avoidance, just me needing to spend some time sorting out my feelings. Everyone makes it look so easy. I want what everyone else has, and I want what nobody else has. I'm fine. Not great, not awful, just fine....but is that enough? and why do people always think there is something wrong when I say that? Who am I kidding, it is because they know me better than I know myself, and know that "fine" usually means there is something going on... there is, I just cannot name the emotion. I feel like I don't cope with things well, although a good friend and mentor of mine that I had lunch the other day told me what amazing coping abilities I have, ones that I am not even conscious of. I wish I could see them more often.
I think it's ok to feel like this sometimes, at this stage of my life, ok to be alone to process, ok to be confused, ok to withdraw as long as you know that if you come back, when you come back, I don't know if I can come back, but if I do, there will be a new horizon waiting, new choices, a clear path. And with that new horizon, I hope friends and family that understand it's what I had to do. And I thank the people, that despite me shutting down, break through my wall, and understand. It's the only thing that gets me through.
Better days ahead.
"Sometimes people put up walls, not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down..."
On some days, I feel fiercely independent, ready to take on the next 10 years of a lot of change and a lot of new adventures. But sometimes, I can hardly breathe, I find it hard to get up in the morning. I just feel heavy and defeated. It's just too much. It's hard to talk about it, because I cannot really explain it fully. It's like I feel trapped. But who understands that? I wonder what people REALLY think of me. I wonder if I will ever feel like a good enough person, and teacher and friend. When will I stop questioning if I am good enough? When will giving 100% to everything and everyone, doing my very best and being fiercely determined and loyal pay off? Not that I need it to "pay off" in a certain way, or get some reward, that is not what I mean at all...just reassurance, that all these characteristics I have in me, are good ones, that they are driving me towards my goals, that my compassion and hard work is worth something. Although maybe it already is, and I just cannot see it yet. I wonder if I will get to that place that everyone else seems to be at....just a place of happiness and contentment and accomplishing their goals, and when they fall having someone around to catch them unconditionally. It probably doesn't even make sense outloud, I just, cannot get it out in words these days outloud, so writing gets it off my chest I guess. I wish it would all go away sometimes, I wonder who would notice, who would care.
Well, Graduate school is in full swing, and I on most days I enjoy it. I forgot what REAL school was like. I am stressed with two classes, granted they are summer classes, 15 weeks squished into 6, I cannot even remember what it was like to take four and five classes in a semester at MSU. How did I do it??? And how did I 4.0 my way through it? I guess that was my job at that point and I really didn't think too much about it, just got into a routine. I really do like my classes though. Grad school is not hard, so far. Just a lot of reading, writing papers. One of my classes though is very interactive, I really enjoy it. Just with these first two classes, I already know that going for Counseling is the right thing for me. I enjoy it so much, on so many different levels. I like learning about something new; not just Spanish, curriculum, literacy, which I have learned about over and over. Not that you ever stop learning but this gives me a new perspective, a new environment, a new way to think about things, and really there is no better satisfaction that academic success, I truly thrive on it, and my 100%'s on my first quizzes and in-person counseling interviews, are the only thing these days that make me feel really good. School is what I am good at, I know I always have that to count on.
I am headed for surgery on August 11th. The day will finally come. I have wanted this for 10 years, and there is not one bit of me that is nervous. I pray that things go well and there are no complications, but I think this is one of those events that will be a turning point for me. I wrote the biggest check I have ever written in my entire life, and now things are official. It is almost surreal. I hope this leads me towards everything I hope it will.
After several weeks of things going really well, I find myself turning inward. I feel myself turning inward. I have learned through my classes actually that this is a long established defense mechanism of mine, turning inward and a sense of humor to deflect what I am actually feeling. It's interesting analyzing myself, although as my professor always says, "everyone now and then needs a check up from the neck up." I turn inward so I don't have to face reality. I turn inward to protect myself from getting hurt and lied to. I turn inward as a learned behavior that I have having been so burned in the past, and struggled so much with feeling like a worthless and defeated person. I laugh off my perfectionist personality, but it acts as a protector from failure and rejection. These both can sometimes come off as being angry, stand-offish. Certainly not intentional emotions, but effects of the defense mechanism ingrained in me. I am fully aware that I have many irrational thoughts about myself...that I have to be perfect, that there is only one right answer to every difficult situation, that I have to try to please everyone all the time....but changing our thought processes, is not an easy task. Even through therapy it takes time and effort to change those automatic thoughts we have about ourselves.
My goal is to focus on the here and now and replace some of those automatic negative thoughts with positive ones. There are so many paths my life can take this summer...one decision effects the rest. So which is the path that I should take? What do I do? What do I know? Not a huge religious person, but right now I kind of wish I was, maybe I need some divine intervention. But right now, I turn inward because it is what I know. I am struggling talking, to even those closest to me. I know it may come off as avoidance, I hope when I come back, people will understand that it was not avoidance, just me needing to spend some time sorting out my feelings. Everyone makes it look so easy. I want what everyone else has, and I want what nobody else has. I'm fine. Not great, not awful, just fine....but is that enough? and why do people always think there is something wrong when I say that? Who am I kidding, it is because they know me better than I know myself, and know that "fine" usually means there is something going on... there is, I just cannot name the emotion. I feel like I don't cope with things well, although a good friend and mentor of mine that I had lunch the other day told me what amazing coping abilities I have, ones that I am not even conscious of. I wish I could see them more often.
I think it's ok to feel like this sometimes, at this stage of my life, ok to be alone to process, ok to be confused, ok to withdraw as long as you know that if you come back, when you come back, I don't know if I can come back, but if I do, there will be a new horizon waiting, new choices, a clear path. And with that new horizon, I hope friends and family that understand it's what I had to do. And I thank the people, that despite me shutting down, break through my wall, and understand. It's the only thing that gets me through.
Better days ahead.
"Sometimes people put up walls, not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down..."
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Get me Bodied, I survived!
I am currently in bed at 8:00 am on my first Tuesday of summer vacation, listening to Get Me Bodied by Beyonce...a nice morning wake-up song to get you going. I decided that a post was necessary as I finished my first year of teaching last Friday, and well, it deserves reflection.
I had a very, very successful first year of teaching. On most days it felt like I had been teaching forever. Coming off of my student teaching experience, I felt extremely prepared. I fell into a very different environment for my first year, compared to that of student teaching, but it is exactly where I wanted to end up. Spanish, middle school, it is always what I have wanted to do. I questioned millions of times whether or not teaching was right for me in college, and working this year showed me that this is exactly where I am supposed to be right now. It comes naturally to me, and while yes there are good days and bad days and teaching is some of the most exhausting work I have ever done, I enjoyed my job on most days.
You work so hard for so long to get to your chosen profession. When I think back to college and remember all the all-nighters, getting into the college of ed, student teaching and grad school, taking horrible classes just to get my degree, studying abroad, throw in life---with boyfriends, ex-boyfriends, friendships, ex-friendships, birthdays, parties,learning about trust and commitment and procrastination and how far emotionally you can be stretched until you break, all to ultimately get to be a teacher. Is it worth it? Well...let's look at what I learned this year.
So, what did I learn this year:
1. Be flexible. Things often don't go as planned, and there is no reason to beat yourself up over it.
2. Middle schoolers are hormonal, more so than I ever was. There will be inappropriate touching, and you may just find a girl in the boys bathroom doing, well, inappropriate touching.
3. Notes are still very popular in middle school...read them when you catch the kids writing them. It can provide hours of entertainment. Then threaten if you ever catch them with a note again you will read it over morning announcements, that usually stops the note writing;)
4. Middle schoolers don't understand sarcasm very much, use it anyways. The kids really do appreciate a great sense of humor.
5. Tell the kids about yourself. I explained on the first day of school that I am an organizational freak, that our classes will be color coded, and even if the student is not organized he or she will be organized in my class or I will have a nervous breakdown...it worked.
6. Tell the kids more about yourself....I explained very early on my love for Carrie Underwood and my hate towards Taylor Swift....the whole school ended up knowing about it. Questions would pop up on tests about them, there would be extra credit offered about them, kids would come in with Taylor Swift shirts and I wouldn't let them in my room...the kids loved it, loved that I could play around and not be 100% academic all the time, you have to let loose a little bit, well a lot a bit or you will lose your mind.
7. Never tell the kids how old you are...my kids till don't know. It's a fun game all year having them guess that you are 18, 16, and even 35!
8. Ask about their weekends, and ask about their issues. Maybe its the counselor in me but while I want my kids to do well in my class, I also want my kids to do well in life...I always make it a priority to keep my door open to talk...and boy did I hear stories this year when I did. It felt good to make a difference.
9. Kids can be assholes. I had some real yahoos in my class. They can make or break your day if you let them. Make fun of them, tease them if you must, then just write them up, they are not worth your time. Some kids no matter how much you try, are too busy in their own world to care. They want too much attention. Try everything you can to get through to them, but sometimes they just need to grow up a little bit.
10. Have patience, lots and lots of patience.
11. Try to be a week ahead of yourself planning, it makes life a lot easier.
12. Make mistakes in front of the kids.
13. Make your classroom colorful! The kids loved my classroom and its chili pepper theme. So did I. A bright, interactive, classroom makes are the difference in the world.
14. Make the children move, they do NOT do well just sitting.
15. Give projects, lots of them. It gives you a break from active teaching, and it allows them to be creative.
16. Use rubrics, it makes grading a lot easier.
17. You get paid from 7:30-3:30 do not take work home to grade after those hours unless someone pays you for it. I got that advice about two months into the school year. And I haven't looked back. (most of the time)
18. Be nice to the secretaries and the custodians.
19. It's ok to show movies.
20. You feel really really good when other teachers come to you and tell you your kids are using Spanish in their classrooms.
21. Connect with other teachers at the school. Having friends at work, adult friends, is a life saver. It kept me sane this year without a doubt. Who else understands? And when things came up this year personally, that were completely unexpected, these friends were the first ones to step up and be 100% supportive.
22. Being a young teacher, it is important to keep the line between teacher and friend very clear. Kids want my cell phone number, facebook, etc. A complement in the sense they related to me, but also I am their teacher, and so it is important to make it understood from the start. We can be friends after you graduate high school is always my rule of thumb.
23. The kids have a fascination with my first name. I tell them. I know a lot of teacher's don't. I don't care, tell them and be done. They get over it.
24. Every day is a new day, don't hold grudges with the kids.
25. BE CONSISTENT. Kids crave routine.
26. Tell the kids when you are having a bad day, everyone has them, why shouldn't you, they respect that.
27. Teach what you are passionate about, go out of the book, teach what will interest the kids.
28. Work was an escape, on many levels, and I will miss it this summer on a certain level.
29. I appreciated how well I was brought up and the "normal" family I was raised in, some of my students had such horrible home lives, I could not even imagine
30. When May 1st hits, kids shut down, you will shut down. Last minute things happen at the end of the year. Unexpected things happen at the end of the year that can completely throw you. It did for me. As hard as it may be try to Vent. Talk. Take Deep Breaths. The end of the school year takes strength and lots of coffee to get through.
31. Having the kids use shaving cream to clean off the their desks at the end of the year does wonders.
And in the end...you will see that all of this pays off. I came to the last day of school with tears in my eyes as I was greeted with a group of my favorite students. A big boquet of my favorite flowers; gerber daisys. Starbucks cards, Beaners Cards, bath and body works things...and the kids were just balling crying so hard they didn't want to leave my class. But more than the presents and the tears were the letters I got from my kids. Kids, who cannot write one paragraph in English wrote me three and four page letters detailing everything we did in class, all the memories, every funny thing I said. The letters were so sweet a wonderful mix of maturity and typical middle school lingo and said things such as " I learned more in your class than any other class and if I had to go and live in Spain right now I could. OR There are very few people that I genuinely respect and you are one of them because you actually treated me like a human being and not some little kid you had the displeasure of teaching OR You taught us amazing words like tenedor and sacapuntas lol OR I will never forget your love of Carrie Underwood and your hatred towards Taylor Swift OR I could come to talk to you about anything and I am not sure who I will go to next year in high school OR You made Spanish so fun with all the songs and games you taught us you really cared about how successful we were OR You always believed in me, even when I ceased to believe in myself, and when I go to California and win my Academy Award I am going to thank you in my speech OR I have one piece of advice for you, don't change because you are perfect just the way you are." I mean these are 12 and 13 year olds.
I have always said if I can just make a difference in one students life the way that my favorite teachers made a difference in mine, and I can honestly say I feel I made a difference and it is a WONDERFUL feeling. The future is unknown, and grad school starts in two weeks, I am unsure of my schedule for this summer, and my heart still races with stress but for the first time in a long time I feel proud of myself. I feel like I am making a difference. I feel like I have surrounded myself with people, new friends and old that have made me feel really good about myself and where I am headed. It's a process, like I said, there is still so much uknown and still so much I question...but for now, for right now, I am going to enjoy the fact that I more than just survived my first year, rather I am gong to enjoy the sense of accomplishment and pride that my first year of teaching brought.
I had a very, very successful first year of teaching. On most days it felt like I had been teaching forever. Coming off of my student teaching experience, I felt extremely prepared. I fell into a very different environment for my first year, compared to that of student teaching, but it is exactly where I wanted to end up. Spanish, middle school, it is always what I have wanted to do. I questioned millions of times whether or not teaching was right for me in college, and working this year showed me that this is exactly where I am supposed to be right now. It comes naturally to me, and while yes there are good days and bad days and teaching is some of the most exhausting work I have ever done, I enjoyed my job on most days.
You work so hard for so long to get to your chosen profession. When I think back to college and remember all the all-nighters, getting into the college of ed, student teaching and grad school, taking horrible classes just to get my degree, studying abroad, throw in life---with boyfriends, ex-boyfriends, friendships, ex-friendships, birthdays, parties,learning about trust and commitment and procrastination and how far emotionally you can be stretched until you break, all to ultimately get to be a teacher. Is it worth it? Well...let's look at what I learned this year.
So, what did I learn this year:
1. Be flexible. Things often don't go as planned, and there is no reason to beat yourself up over it.
2. Middle schoolers are hormonal, more so than I ever was. There will be inappropriate touching, and you may just find a girl in the boys bathroom doing, well, inappropriate touching.
3. Notes are still very popular in middle school...read them when you catch the kids writing them. It can provide hours of entertainment. Then threaten if you ever catch them with a note again you will read it over morning announcements, that usually stops the note writing;)
4. Middle schoolers don't understand sarcasm very much, use it anyways. The kids really do appreciate a great sense of humor.
5. Tell the kids about yourself. I explained on the first day of school that I am an organizational freak, that our classes will be color coded, and even if the student is not organized he or she will be organized in my class or I will have a nervous breakdown...it worked.
6. Tell the kids more about yourself....I explained very early on my love for Carrie Underwood and my hate towards Taylor Swift....the whole school ended up knowing about it. Questions would pop up on tests about them, there would be extra credit offered about them, kids would come in with Taylor Swift shirts and I wouldn't let them in my room...the kids loved it, loved that I could play around and not be 100% academic all the time, you have to let loose a little bit, well a lot a bit or you will lose your mind.
7. Never tell the kids how old you are...my kids till don't know. It's a fun game all year having them guess that you are 18, 16, and even 35!
8. Ask about their weekends, and ask about their issues. Maybe its the counselor in me but while I want my kids to do well in my class, I also want my kids to do well in life...I always make it a priority to keep my door open to talk...and boy did I hear stories this year when I did. It felt good to make a difference.
9. Kids can be assholes. I had some real yahoos in my class. They can make or break your day if you let them. Make fun of them, tease them if you must, then just write them up, they are not worth your time. Some kids no matter how much you try, are too busy in their own world to care. They want too much attention. Try everything you can to get through to them, but sometimes they just need to grow up a little bit.
10. Have patience, lots and lots of patience.
11. Try to be a week ahead of yourself planning, it makes life a lot easier.
12. Make mistakes in front of the kids.
13. Make your classroom colorful! The kids loved my classroom and its chili pepper theme. So did I. A bright, interactive, classroom makes are the difference in the world.
14. Make the children move, they do NOT do well just sitting.
15. Give projects, lots of them. It gives you a break from active teaching, and it allows them to be creative.
16. Use rubrics, it makes grading a lot easier.
17. You get paid from 7:30-3:30 do not take work home to grade after those hours unless someone pays you for it. I got that advice about two months into the school year. And I haven't looked back. (most of the time)
18. Be nice to the secretaries and the custodians.
19. It's ok to show movies.
20. You feel really really good when other teachers come to you and tell you your kids are using Spanish in their classrooms.
21. Connect with other teachers at the school. Having friends at work, adult friends, is a life saver. It kept me sane this year without a doubt. Who else understands? And when things came up this year personally, that were completely unexpected, these friends were the first ones to step up and be 100% supportive.
22. Being a young teacher, it is important to keep the line between teacher and friend very clear. Kids want my cell phone number, facebook, etc. A complement in the sense they related to me, but also I am their teacher, and so it is important to make it understood from the start. We can be friends after you graduate high school is always my rule of thumb.
23. The kids have a fascination with my first name. I tell them. I know a lot of teacher's don't. I don't care, tell them and be done. They get over it.
24. Every day is a new day, don't hold grudges with the kids.
25. BE CONSISTENT. Kids crave routine.
26. Tell the kids when you are having a bad day, everyone has them, why shouldn't you, they respect that.
27. Teach what you are passionate about, go out of the book, teach what will interest the kids.
28. Work was an escape, on many levels, and I will miss it this summer on a certain level.
29. I appreciated how well I was brought up and the "normal" family I was raised in, some of my students had such horrible home lives, I could not even imagine
30. When May 1st hits, kids shut down, you will shut down. Last minute things happen at the end of the year. Unexpected things happen at the end of the year that can completely throw you. It did for me. As hard as it may be try to Vent. Talk. Take Deep Breaths. The end of the school year takes strength and lots of coffee to get through.
31. Having the kids use shaving cream to clean off the their desks at the end of the year does wonders.
And in the end...you will see that all of this pays off. I came to the last day of school with tears in my eyes as I was greeted with a group of my favorite students. A big boquet of my favorite flowers; gerber daisys. Starbucks cards, Beaners Cards, bath and body works things...and the kids were just balling crying so hard they didn't want to leave my class. But more than the presents and the tears were the letters I got from my kids. Kids, who cannot write one paragraph in English wrote me three and four page letters detailing everything we did in class, all the memories, every funny thing I said. The letters were so sweet a wonderful mix of maturity and typical middle school lingo and said things such as " I learned more in your class than any other class and if I had to go and live in Spain right now I could. OR There are very few people that I genuinely respect and you are one of them because you actually treated me like a human being and not some little kid you had the displeasure of teaching OR You taught us amazing words like tenedor and sacapuntas lol OR I will never forget your love of Carrie Underwood and your hatred towards Taylor Swift OR I could come to talk to you about anything and I am not sure who I will go to next year in high school OR You made Spanish so fun with all the songs and games you taught us you really cared about how successful we were OR You always believed in me, even when I ceased to believe in myself, and when I go to California and win my Academy Award I am going to thank you in my speech OR I have one piece of advice for you, don't change because you are perfect just the way you are." I mean these are 12 and 13 year olds.
I have always said if I can just make a difference in one students life the way that my favorite teachers made a difference in mine, and I can honestly say I feel I made a difference and it is a WONDERFUL feeling. The future is unknown, and grad school starts in two weeks, I am unsure of my schedule for this summer, and my heart still races with stress but for the first time in a long time I feel proud of myself. I feel like I am making a difference. I feel like I have surrounded myself with people, new friends and old that have made me feel really good about myself and where I am headed. It's a process, like I said, there is still so much uknown and still so much I question...but for now, for right now, I am going to enjoy the fact that I more than just survived my first year, rather I am gong to enjoy the sense of accomplishment and pride that my first year of teaching brought.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Some Thoughts
As my heart races to 150 beats per minute, strangely I feel (or I know I should feel) incredibly blessed, yet it is hard for me to catch my breath. I think about how I have felt in the past, how is this the same, how is this different? I try to talk about it, but not sure the words come out right. I wonder what I have done to get myself to this point. I am ridden with guilt, as I try to decide what is best for me. I wonder if I worry too much about what others will think, I wonder if I will be any less of a person. I am struggling with feeling a lack of control. I am wondering if my worrying is making me worry too much. While my personality has driven me to keep a good sense of humor, a listening ear, a good reputation, treat others well, try to always find a middle ground, think about how I treat the people closest to me, has lead me to great success and has pushed me to see how much I can accomplish; I find myself wondering how much of who I am, has also held me back. I want to be better at standing up for myself, and not feel guilty. I think a very big part of me just wants to make sure I am on the right path and that I matter in some way, to somebody. I want to feel good about who I am, and where I am, and where I am going. I want to be ok with it all. And as I start to think about how far I have come, and how far I have left to go...I can feel my heart begin to race all over again....
I have lost 10lbs through my running training, and since this is always a constant battle for me, I do feel good for that accomplishment. Although, at least with weight, and exercise, I have some control of the results....
As thankful as I am for summer vacation and not having to work in the summer, I think almost a bigger part of me is nervous for what this summer will bring. I do much better on a routine, with a schedule, and I suppose I would feel better if I knew what was going on in the fall. But there is going to be a lot me that misses the distraction that work provides, the students..the good and the bad, my friends here, lesson planning, it all, for the most part takes so much focus off of myself and worrying about me. I will miss that. I am happy for the break though, because as much of a distraction that work provides, it also is making me insanely stressed out.
Quotes of the Day:
¨It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them.¨
"Señorita, I would throw him out the window if that would make you happy.¨
¨Anyone can give up, its the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that´s true strength.¨
I have lost 10lbs through my running training, and since this is always a constant battle for me, I do feel good for that accomplishment. Although, at least with weight, and exercise, I have some control of the results....
As thankful as I am for summer vacation and not having to work in the summer, I think almost a bigger part of me is nervous for what this summer will bring. I do much better on a routine, with a schedule, and I suppose I would feel better if I knew what was going on in the fall. But there is going to be a lot me that misses the distraction that work provides, the students..the good and the bad, my friends here, lesson planning, it all, for the most part takes so much focus off of myself and worrying about me. I will miss that. I am happy for the break though, because as much of a distraction that work provides, it also is making me insanely stressed out.
Quotes of the Day:
¨It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them.¨
"Señorita, I would throw him out the window if that would make you happy.¨
¨Anyone can give up, its the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that´s true strength.¨
Sunday, May 31, 2009
I DID IT!
I did it! In the midst of a very very stressful week of work, Two bad hips, physical therapy and an emergency first time trip to the chiropractor that a friend scheduled for me...I ran in my first 5k race. I surprised myself with how well I did, and I was immensely surprised by how much I love the whole racing scene. The people, the atmosphere were awesome. After a mile and a half warm up watching my friend off to her 10k and walking to my 5k start with other friends...my hip was all warmed up. A few stretches and three sports bras later, I was off. Maybe it was Beyonce's single ladies, maybe it was everyone running around me, maybe it was my friends running with me today and training with me over the last few months, maybe it was because I have wanted to do this for so long and adrenaline kicked in...whatever it was, I was off, and pain free. I had to walk up two hills, my hips couldn't take it, but other than that, I ran the whole time. Finishing with a very acceptable time of 36 minutes 42 seconds. I am officially addicted. I feel so good about myself and so proud of myself. I had a few pretty crappy set backs, but did it! There is nothing I like better than setting a goal and accomplishing it. I NEVER thought I would be a runner. Number 10 has officially been checked off my Bucket List, and as I am looking at my list, number 18 can be checked off too..throwing someone a surpise party. And so can number 21, get into grad school. I haven't checked the list in the while, and I am making some progress. GREAT day today, cannot wait to do it again!
Taking a mental health day off of school tomorrow to regroup, reprioritize and take a day off of stress...a day to take care of myself for once.
Enjoy this beautiful day!
Taking a mental health day off of school tomorrow to regroup, reprioritize and take a day off of stress...a day to take care of myself for once.
Enjoy this beautiful day!
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Certainty
Well, I am currently in the middle of memorial day weekend, and loving every minute. A well deserved long weekend, filled with relaxation, getting race ready for next weekend (well at least as race ready as I can get with a bad hip), organizing, spending time with friends, and catching up with some work from school. An interesting event happened today, which made me feel particularly happy about the place I am in my life. It is really funny to me the idea of intimidation and what it makes a person do. Now there is a very big difference between being intimidated, and being nervous or anxious or stressed. Nervousness, anxiousness, stress...all usually inherit characteristics in your personality....they are circumstantial sometimes, they occur when you personally feel there is something to lose from the situation or the outcome. When one is intimidated similar symptoms may appear----one does not make eye contact, heart races, one desperately try to think of what to say, or one may say nothing at all, and then run and hide. The difference lies in this: one that is intimidated must feel guilty on some level about something, or why run, why just the small talk, why not look the person in the eye, there is nothing personally for you to lose, so why feel intimidated? It's the guilt...but just so the situation is not awkward you try to say something quickly, and then kick yourself for how you sounded once you leave the situation, or you may try to convince yourself the other party made it awkward or at least you said SOMETHING...oh, let me reassure you.... everyone noticed your awkwardness and idiotic behavior... the awkwardness and the idiotic behavior portrayed comes in the fact that you were intimidated in the first place. I have to think that intimidation can only happen to a person who is weak, to a person who knows he/she has done something wrong and is not strong enough to confront it. Intimidation reflects the inability to change into a better person, the inability to grow up, mature, apologize, see perspective. Oh, how some people never, ever change.
I, on the other hand, have changed. I have grown and changed in ways that make me feel really good about myself, always trying my very best to be honest and do the right thing. And, I learned that I cannot change other people. I will always keep an open door, because I believe in new beginnings, but people make choices that sometimes have no logical explanation, they just work for them, and are sometimes made at the expense of other people. You just have to hope they are happy with their choices down the line. Many times, you are able to see hindsight before them, but they will have to learn from their own mistakes when reality hits. I see now that you have to be concerned about yourself, what is best for you, surround yourself with people that bring out the best in you, and bring out the change in you.
I have been given a lot of tough lessons over the years. I have battled time and time again to find myself. I realized today that while many doors of many relationships were shut in my face, and scars planted, for each person that left my life, god or someone bigger than me quietly put some really amazing people into my life. I was given a wonderful support system and I have only just started to realize it, and even though I was oblivious to the support because I was too busy worrying about what was long gone, once again, this year, I was blessed to have two more great people and friends come into my life, that have offered nothing but support and a wonderful sense of humor as I try to build the person I want to become. Going through your twenties is not easy...there are absolutely wonderful times that can only happen when you are in your twenties and there are really really horrible times too. I have gotten better about looking at the positive, but I also am constantly anxious and stressed out by nature. All of the good of my personality and all of the bad, have truly been embraced by the people that matter in my life. I have started to develop the mentality where I cannot feel guilty for how I am feeling, and I cannot change my reactions out of fear that people will pull away. I have realized that I tend to hold emotions in, until I am about ready to explode, probably due to past experiences....but now, I am starting to feel comfortable talking, and I realized that talking, to the right people, actually does make me feel better. I am at a point where either you like me or you don't....I am sarcastic, emotional, compassionate, funny, loyal and a complete perfectionist. I worry about the past, I stress out about the future, not a huge fan of change, I apologize probably too often, I have a hard time saying no, I care about how I treat people and I wear my heart on my sleeve....but with all that comes great passion for what I believe in......you have to accept me the way I am, I will not change my personality because someone is offended or does not like it. This does not mean I will not change and learn from people, it just means that I won't accept being betrayed, lied to, or put down because of how I react to situations or because of the very sensitive personality that I was born with. There is still a lot of work I have to do, a lot to figure out, and some days I feel like a train wreck, but I surround myself with people that have let me know that it is ok to feel this way, and they are always there to offer a listening ear and advice. Most importantly, I have realized, with completely certainty, that I am not alone. And on my hardest days, this knowledge, will get me through, and I am completely thankful.
After 12 hours of organizing my life, I am sitting in a VERY clean room, with labels, boxes, and colored coded lists....I hope sleep tonight will be a very real possibility......
I, on the other hand, have changed. I have grown and changed in ways that make me feel really good about myself, always trying my very best to be honest and do the right thing. And, I learned that I cannot change other people. I will always keep an open door, because I believe in new beginnings, but people make choices that sometimes have no logical explanation, they just work for them, and are sometimes made at the expense of other people. You just have to hope they are happy with their choices down the line. Many times, you are able to see hindsight before them, but they will have to learn from their own mistakes when reality hits. I see now that you have to be concerned about yourself, what is best for you, surround yourself with people that bring out the best in you, and bring out the change in you.
I have been given a lot of tough lessons over the years. I have battled time and time again to find myself. I realized today that while many doors of many relationships were shut in my face, and scars planted, for each person that left my life, god or someone bigger than me quietly put some really amazing people into my life. I was given a wonderful support system and I have only just started to realize it, and even though I was oblivious to the support because I was too busy worrying about what was long gone, once again, this year, I was blessed to have two more great people and friends come into my life, that have offered nothing but support and a wonderful sense of humor as I try to build the person I want to become. Going through your twenties is not easy...there are absolutely wonderful times that can only happen when you are in your twenties and there are really really horrible times too. I have gotten better about looking at the positive, but I also am constantly anxious and stressed out by nature. All of the good of my personality and all of the bad, have truly been embraced by the people that matter in my life. I have started to develop the mentality where I cannot feel guilty for how I am feeling, and I cannot change my reactions out of fear that people will pull away. I have realized that I tend to hold emotions in, until I am about ready to explode, probably due to past experiences....but now, I am starting to feel comfortable talking, and I realized that talking, to the right people, actually does make me feel better. I am at a point where either you like me or you don't....I am sarcastic, emotional, compassionate, funny, loyal and a complete perfectionist. I worry about the past, I stress out about the future, not a huge fan of change, I apologize probably too often, I have a hard time saying no, I care about how I treat people and I wear my heart on my sleeve....but with all that comes great passion for what I believe in......you have to accept me the way I am, I will not change my personality because someone is offended or does not like it. This does not mean I will not change and learn from people, it just means that I won't accept being betrayed, lied to, or put down because of how I react to situations or because of the very sensitive personality that I was born with. There is still a lot of work I have to do, a lot to figure out, and some days I feel like a train wreck, but I surround myself with people that have let me know that it is ok to feel this way, and they are always there to offer a listening ear and advice. Most importantly, I have realized, with completely certainty, that I am not alone. And on my hardest days, this knowledge, will get me through, and I am completely thankful.
After 12 hours of organizing my life, I am sitting in a VERY clean room, with labels, boxes, and colored coded lists....I hope sleep tonight will be a very real possibility......
Saturday, May 16, 2009
Well-written
In between my running schedule, my less than favorable sleeping patterns, and the hecticness of the end of my school year, I have found the need to unwind and am addicted to just curling up in my bed and reading good books. I am in this online book club and I came across this book while doing some research on finding a new york times best seller to read, and found these really interesting quotes as I read my book tonight. It is interesting to me when you can hear emotion and feel emotion off of a page in a book...maybe you relate to the subject, maybe you cannot, but you can just sense that it is very, very well written, at least in my opinion. I have always said if I weren't a teacher, I would be a writer. I still secretly want to write a book one day, I guess I am just enjoy when I come across good writing, so I thought I'd share. So what makes good writing...the ability to relate to the message, the feeling that you understand just what is being written, that emotion comes across the page, you can feel what is being written, whether you have experienced a common situation or not, you can still feel sympathy, empathy, towards the character...or maybe even say I´ve been there. Now, it is not the most uplifting of books, but excellent writing none-the-less:
"...occasionally I wished I could walk through a picture window and have the sharp, broken shards slash me to ribbons so I would finally look like I felt."
"I'm the girl who is lost in space, the girl who is disappearing always, forever fading away and receding farther and farther into the background. Just like the Cheshire cat, someday I will suddenly leave, but the artificial warmth of my smile, that phony, clownish curve, the kind you see on miserably sad people and villains in Disney movies, will remain behind as an ironic remnant. I am the girl you see in the photograph from some party someplace or some picnic in the park, the one who is in fact soon to be gone. When you look at the picture again, I want to assure you, I will no longer be there. I will be erased from history, like a traitor in the Soviet Union. Because with every day that goes by, I feel myself becoming more and more invisible..."
"I intend to scream, shout, race the engine, call when I feel like it, throw tantrums in Bloomingdale's if I feel like it and confess intimate details about my life to complete strangers. I intend to do what I want to do and be whom I want to be and answer only to myself: that is, quite simply, the bitch philosophy..."
"And then there are my friends, and they have their own lives. While they like to talk everything through, to analyze and hypothesize, what I really need, what I'm really looking for, is not something I can articulate. It's nonverbal: I need love. I need the thing that happens when your brain shuts off and your heart turns on.
And I know it's around me somewhere, but I just can't feel it."
"And I know, knew for sure, with an absolute certainty, that this is rock bottom, this what the worst possible thing feels like. It is not some grand, wretched emotional breakdown. It is, in fact, so very mundane:…Rock Bottom is an inability to cope with the commonplace that is so extreme it makes even the grandest and loveliest things unbearable…Rock bottom is feeling that the only thing that matters in all of life is the one bad moment…Rock bottom is everything out of focus. It’s a failure of vision, a failure to see the world how it is, to see the good in what it is, and only to wonder why the hell things look the way they do and not—and not some other way."
"Some friends don't understand this. They don't understand how desperate I am to have someone say, I love you and I support you just the way you are because you're wonderful just the way you are. They don't understand that I can't remember anyone ever saying that to me. I am so demanding and difficult for my friends because I want to crumble and fall apart before them so that they will love me even though I am no fun, lying in bed, crying all the time, not moving. It is all about If you loved me, if you supported me, cared about me, valued me, were loyal to me...... you would."
“I start to feel like I can’t maintain the facade any longer, that I may just start to show through. And I wish I knew what was wrong. Maybe something about how stupid my whole life is. I don’t know. Why does the rest of the world put up with the hypocrisy, the need to put a happy face on sorrow, the need to keep on keeping on?... I don’t know the answer, I know only that I can’t. I don't want any more vicissitudes, I don't want any more of this try, try again stuff. I just want out. I’ve had it. I am so tired. I am twenty and I am already exhausted.”
And 3 things I am thankful for today:
1. That some friends of mine began to make me feel ok to talk about things again, made me feel a lot less alone. There is a lot to process, It's not going to happen overnight, I know that, but I have a place to go now.
2. My mom. It is her birthday today, and while I am in a battle ground with her a lot, I really do love her and was glad she had a good birthday.
3. 18 more wake-up days left of my first year of teaching, ahh, summer;)
.....and of course for how far I have come, and deep down, know how much stronger I will be.
"...occasionally I wished I could walk through a picture window and have the sharp, broken shards slash me to ribbons so I would finally look like I felt."
"I'm the girl who is lost in space, the girl who is disappearing always, forever fading away and receding farther and farther into the background. Just like the Cheshire cat, someday I will suddenly leave, but the artificial warmth of my smile, that phony, clownish curve, the kind you see on miserably sad people and villains in Disney movies, will remain behind as an ironic remnant. I am the girl you see in the photograph from some party someplace or some picnic in the park, the one who is in fact soon to be gone. When you look at the picture again, I want to assure you, I will no longer be there. I will be erased from history, like a traitor in the Soviet Union. Because with every day that goes by, I feel myself becoming more and more invisible..."
"I intend to scream, shout, race the engine, call when I feel like it, throw tantrums in Bloomingdale's if I feel like it and confess intimate details about my life to complete strangers. I intend to do what I want to do and be whom I want to be and answer only to myself: that is, quite simply, the bitch philosophy..."
"And then there are my friends, and they have their own lives. While they like to talk everything through, to analyze and hypothesize, what I really need, what I'm really looking for, is not something I can articulate. It's nonverbal: I need love. I need the thing that happens when your brain shuts off and your heart turns on.
And I know it's around me somewhere, but I just can't feel it."
"And I know, knew for sure, with an absolute certainty, that this is rock bottom, this what the worst possible thing feels like. It is not some grand, wretched emotional breakdown. It is, in fact, so very mundane:…Rock Bottom is an inability to cope with the commonplace that is so extreme it makes even the grandest and loveliest things unbearable…Rock bottom is feeling that the only thing that matters in all of life is the one bad moment…Rock bottom is everything out of focus. It’s a failure of vision, a failure to see the world how it is, to see the good in what it is, and only to wonder why the hell things look the way they do and not—and not some other way."
"Some friends don't understand this. They don't understand how desperate I am to have someone say, I love you and I support you just the way you are because you're wonderful just the way you are. They don't understand that I can't remember anyone ever saying that to me. I am so demanding and difficult for my friends because I want to crumble and fall apart before them so that they will love me even though I am no fun, lying in bed, crying all the time, not moving. It is all about If you loved me, if you supported me, cared about me, valued me, were loyal to me...... you would."
“I start to feel like I can’t maintain the facade any longer, that I may just start to show through. And I wish I knew what was wrong. Maybe something about how stupid my whole life is. I don’t know. Why does the rest of the world put up with the hypocrisy, the need to put a happy face on sorrow, the need to keep on keeping on?... I don’t know the answer, I know only that I can’t. I don't want any more vicissitudes, I don't want any more of this try, try again stuff. I just want out. I’ve had it. I am so tired. I am twenty and I am already exhausted.”
And 3 things I am thankful for today:
1. That some friends of mine began to make me feel ok to talk about things again, made me feel a lot less alone. There is a lot to process, It's not going to happen overnight, I know that, but I have a place to go now.
2. My mom. It is her birthday today, and while I am in a battle ground with her a lot, I really do love her and was glad she had a good birthday.
3. 18 more wake-up days left of my first year of teaching, ahh, summer;)
.....and of course for how far I have come, and deep down, know how much stronger I will be.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Another fork in the road, you keep turning
I have hit several stumbling blocks, and I am none too happy about it. It was told to me once that you will be given the same situations and the same types of people will enter you life and you will make the same mistakes in different ways until you learn your lesson....I thought I had learned it...several of them...several times over. But, these obstacles still keep coming up...hitting me head on, as I try to grow as a person, I understand that it does not happen over night, and I know how much you have to learn in order to grow into the person you become, but a little success a long the way, a little sign from up above that I am doing the right thing, a little nudge saying keep going, a little you WILL be ok, a little you can do this from someone, somewhere, would be really helpful. I have been through so much and am currently going through a lot as well...and I just need there to be a path that says this is the right way, I thought I was on it, I felt good, better, changed....it takes so much to change yourself....a change of lifestyle, attitude, values, morals a new focus and I have tried so hard to do all of this, and I still seem to fall short. It is so easy to fall back into bad habits, why? Why do I feel so different from everyone else? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I focus so much on the failure and not the accomplishment? Ugh, I am frustrated, and irritated and upset and angry. And I know those are ok emotions to have, I have to be ok with them, rational or irrational, they are what they are. But, I hope they are not sending the wrong message. I know I have come far, I have made great strides, but still so far to go, and I just need a bit of help....I hope something or someone comes along to help me trust I am doing the right thing, going the right way, changing my lifestyle in a positive way, seeing perspective and being a good person.
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You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.
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The things you want are always possible; it is just that the way to get them is not always apparent. The only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life is you, and that can be a considerable obstacle because you carry the baggage of insecurities and past experience.
Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven't half the strength you think they have.
Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.
You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.
If you only look at what is, you might never attain what could be.
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Success!
I ran my 5k in 36 minutes 48 seconds today, without stopping. Oh, did it feel good. And it was a fairly pain-free, easy run! I never, ever, ever, thought I would be a "runner," not that I am a marathoner or anything, but still I have always wanted to get into it, always wanted to run a race, and here I am getting race ready! Running is in my blood...just in the fact that it is a challenge, something you have to track, something you have to practice to get good it, its something scheduled, its goal oriented....me, in a nut shell;) Now that this is looking more feasible, I officially signed up for the race, and am excited to complete my first one. I am thinking about doing the 10k across the Canadian bridge at the end of October, we will see how this one goes.
Still no word on my job, but remaining cautiously optimistic. I have to think that being in Livonia is meant to me. I spoke with my friend from my student teaching school today, who I miss greatly, and she told me it was a good thing I didn't take the job I was offered at my student teaching school because they lady that was hired in my place got laid off yesterday. Meant to be, without a doubt, and definitely the right choice. Livonia gave me a very good education, and has treated me well so far. I know their are flaws in the district, but my school is getting Smartboards next year, and really it changes your life as a teacher. Not to mention I love the people there, so I have think that what is meant to be will be. If I am not there, well there will be a reason for that, I will freak out, and melt down, but try to be patient that all will be ok in the end.
I am considering getting a second job this summer and going to grad school...bad idea?? I don't know. I went apartment searching today with my friend, which let me tell you, bringing someone along that has been there, done that, and just add a second eye and opinion is a great idea. I also almost met my future husband, too bad he was engaged ha. But, in all seriousness, it really was nice to go to these places and have someone else's opinion and input, it was definitely a good day and a good afternooon. I went alone originally and came home stressed out, grumpy and overwhelmed. This was a much different experience. I think I have gone down to two apartments, maybe three. Probably two;) Both nice size, washer and dryer in unit, carports for these lovely Michigan winters, within 10-20 minutes of work, close to friends, close, yet far away enough from family, they felt homey, and I realized more than ever how much I need to move out. I will make a decision in the next few weeks then its off to IKEA to decorate:)
I have a big "talk" tomorrow. I am going in with a very open mind, and trying to apply everything I have learned over the past two years as I enter into this. Looking at the good in all people, looking at how much I have changed, what I will stand for and what I won't stand for, how I deserve to be treated, and how I refuse to be treated. I am hoping all things go well.
Feeling good....and in a really good mood. Off to my little Megan's 3rd birthday party...
Still no word on my job, but remaining cautiously optimistic. I have to think that being in Livonia is meant to me. I spoke with my friend from my student teaching school today, who I miss greatly, and she told me it was a good thing I didn't take the job I was offered at my student teaching school because they lady that was hired in my place got laid off yesterday. Meant to be, without a doubt, and definitely the right choice. Livonia gave me a very good education, and has treated me well so far. I know their are flaws in the district, but my school is getting Smartboards next year, and really it changes your life as a teacher. Not to mention I love the people there, so I have think that what is meant to be will be. If I am not there, well there will be a reason for that, I will freak out, and melt down, but try to be patient that all will be ok in the end.
I am considering getting a second job this summer and going to grad school...bad idea?? I don't know. I went apartment searching today with my friend, which let me tell you, bringing someone along that has been there, done that, and just add a second eye and opinion is a great idea. I also almost met my future husband, too bad he was engaged ha. But, in all seriousness, it really was nice to go to these places and have someone else's opinion and input, it was definitely a good day and a good afternooon. I went alone originally and came home stressed out, grumpy and overwhelmed. This was a much different experience. I think I have gone down to two apartments, maybe three. Probably two;) Both nice size, washer and dryer in unit, carports for these lovely Michigan winters, within 10-20 minutes of work, close to friends, close, yet far away enough from family, they felt homey, and I realized more than ever how much I need to move out. I will make a decision in the next few weeks then its off to IKEA to decorate:)
I have a big "talk" tomorrow. I am going in with a very open mind, and trying to apply everything I have learned over the past two years as I enter into this. Looking at the good in all people, looking at how much I have changed, what I will stand for and what I won't stand for, how I deserve to be treated, and how I refuse to be treated. I am hoping all things go well.
Feeling good....and in a really good mood. Off to my little Megan's 3rd birthday party...
Sunday, April 26, 2009
What TIME is it Mr. Fox?
Time. If only it were as easy and fun as the elementary school game "What TIME is it Mr. Fox?" I loved that game, I loved being active, I didn't quite realize the complicated nature of time.
Best friend, worst enemy.
Here I am with 32 days left of my first year of teaching, where did the time go?
Where did this year go?
How much time does it take to learn life lessons?
Time heals, it moves forward, it hurts, it teaches you things, there is never enough of it, it makes you appreciate people, it gives you purpose, you wish you could turn it back, you pray you never have to live it again, you yearn for more of it, you wish it would speed up, you wish it would slow down...time, it's here to stay.
I think the most important lesson I learned this year is patience. Patience with myself, with the people in my life, with my past, with my future, with my students, with my parents, with my friends. Patience, that tomorrow will be better. Patience, in dealing with troublesome students. Patience, in dealing with myself, my self-image, my perfectionist personality, my struggle with change and sensitivity. Patience, in waiting for new people to come into my life that help me find happiness and embrace these crazy years in my early twenties. Patience, in the fact that not everything has to get done today, not every worksheet will be error free, not ever lesson will go smoothly. Patience, in that I will make mistakes, I will say the wrong things, I will treat people the way they shouldn't be treated, but have the patience to go back and say the right things, and repave the rocky the road.
My trip to Florida was wonderful, it showed me how much I deserve to treat myself well, and give myself vacations and time with friends. I deserve it. I come back to the last leg of school, and while exhausted and overwhelmed, I am feeling excited and accomplished that my chosen career was an overall great success. And while pink slips go out on Friday, I pray that my job is secure and that I will be at my school next year. The staff, the students, I love it. And while there are mixed feelings about administration, school politics etc, I think that could be found in any school. I feel like I found a good groove, a wonderful group of friends, and a very easy transition into and out of my first year. I am incredibly thankful I am not a intern this year, looking for jobs and going to job fairs in this economy must be hell. Michigan State had 92 less schools than last year. I heard from a friend that some interns were talking about only interviewing in one area, only looking for jobs in a few cities....what a poor life decision, do they not watch the news? Do they not want a jobs? Idiots. Priorities people. I am not saying that you may not get lucky and teach in the area you want to, but honestly, only interviewing and looking in a certain area, get over yourself. If financially you can afford your own place, please look in more than just 5 or 6 cities. Interview EVERYWHERE, you never know what will pop up, and where. That is part of life, new experiences, new places, change....you cannot get everything in life handed to you, welcome to the real world. You get a job where there is an opening....not because it is in the ideal suburban environment next to your greatest friends and cool hang outs. Teach where you will make a difference, teach in a place because it fits your major, your passion, go out a limb, spread your wings....or be an idiot and just sub your life away until you get that ideal job. And let me tell you, from experience, the ideal job in your head now, will drastically change after you have taught for a year. Good luck.
Everything happens for a reason...it is, what it is. I am me, take it or leave it. Persistence. Pro-active. Sarcastic. Meant to be. Change. Better people. Better me. I spent so long wondering if I made the wrong choice student teaching back home, I spent so long wondering weather or not teaching back in my home district was a good idea, I spent so long re-wishing I could do it over. Until now. I realized that student teaching back home, allowed me to make contacts I never would have been able to up at STATE. It allowed me to form life-long friendships with people I would never have even seen otherwise. People that have completely changed my view of life, challenges, the future, meaning of family and relationships, and connection. My student teaching gave me an experience that was not in SPARKLE VALLEY, it showed me the realities of urban education, in a positive environment, that showed how much teachers care about giving all students an equal education, passionate about their students, and taught me skills in classroom management, lesson plans, and assessment that were all brought with me this year and made my first year easier than any other first year teacher I have heard of. I don't take back the rough year for anything, in hindsight, because of the better person and teacher it made me. I don't think that people with the typical "perfect" school experience in student teaching, will be as prepared in their first year, nor be able to relate to the vast student population and parents they will encounter. I feel lucky to have had this.
I also feel that it was exactly what was meant to be, to be at my school. Comfort of my old teachers around me, allowed me to stay home and save a lot of money this year, and I have met some great colleagues who have become wonderful friends that have not only helped me out tremendously as mentors and given me wonderful ideas professionally, but have become truly great friends and have supported me in ways I could never begin to thank them for. Life experience, advice, support, a listening ear, perspective, and of course a sense of humor....allowing me to completely be myself and not feel bad talking things out when life gets messy. If I didn't take the path I took, I never would have met them, and I know they came into my life just at the right time, and for just the right reason.
Time and teachers. There is never enough of it as a a teacher, grading, assessment, after school activities. But there is also so much time to get to know the kids and form relationships with them. My job allows me to work with AWESOME kids filled with so much potential, I feel so fortunate to be a part of their lives and to do the job I do. I feel extraordinary lucky that will all my time spent in the public schools system, I came across teachers that have forever changed my life.....they believed in me when I ceased to believe in myself. They read through 4 page emails I sent home from college, they helped me maintain that every desired 4.0 GPA, they gave me confidence, they supported me through student teaching, they went out on a limb for me, they continue to support me and believe in me and still instill a sense of confidence that I could never have on my own. Their compassion for me as a person, who I am, and who I am striving to be shows me what true friendship can come out of my chosen profession and colleague support. It also shows me that I will be unconditionally supported by these people, some of whom I have known since I was 11 years old, for the rest of my life. And with how I have felt in the past, this is very comforting.
As far as relationships go, I have learned that distance has very little to do the value and strength of relationships. I was made to feel very badly for very long because I viewed distance from friends as a bad thing. I was made to feel that I couldn't share negative things I was going through, because people in my life had no room for negativity. I was made out to be this horrible, angry, jealous person because I just needed support and reassurance. What I have learned, is that distance has actually strengthened my friendships. While I miss my MSU friends and high school friends and friends that have moved away desperately, and it was a transition not seeing them everyday, once we moved away from each other, I realized what good friends we really were. A phone call every time a new first happened, a e-mail and surprise visit when we could tell something was not right, visits are as if no time has passed at all, distance gave us the room to grow as people travel our own paths meet new people, friends, boyfriends, yet still come back to the comforts of our friendship. True passion for each others well being, solid in our values for our friendship, unbreakable listening and communcation skills, and wonderful support, advice, memories and laughter. As I look at my future, I know there are may unknowns....graduate school, moving out, marriage, travel, kids...this group of friends have taught me what I deserve, who I am, that I should not be afraid to stand up for what I believe in, they have supported me and listened through every bad event, and stressful situation. I no longer hide things out of fear that it will rip apart our friendships...instead it makes us stronger. There are no secrets, no off limit topics, they have proved time and time again, that I am never alone, no matter what the situation....in a future that is so unknown it is wonderful to know that as independent as they have helped me become, I also know they will always be by my side.
Time. I have a lot left to experience with my time here. There is a lot left to learn, a lot left to enjoy, and I have not mastered appreciating every moment. Life gets crazy and hectic and I get overwhelmed and stressed out. But, that is what tomorrow is for. I always remain hopeful that I will have a lot more time to learn from life, learn from my relationships. Time to enjoy my future family and grandparents and my career. Time to heal from mistakes and past betrayals, and time to rebuild and form new realtionships. Time to enjoy my accomplishments, time to accomplish life goals, time to just breath, and read a book. Time to help others in need, and time to support others when they need me.
Right now, it's time to think that with time, everything will work out exactly as it should. I am strong-willed, and confident, and sensitive, and compassionate and a bit OCD....but time has taught me that all of that is ok because it makes me who I am.
Time taught me that I could not just stop my life and dwell on the negative and the what-ifs and why, and why bad things happen to good people, and try and change other people....no, because I was starting to forget all the good, all the positive, all I had going for me, the best of myself....no one can make me forget, ignore or betray the best of who I am. I recieved some really great advice from a friend that said "You should never feel that you have to apologize for how you are feeling or why you are feeling that way. Whether you are having rational or irrational feelings, they are what they are, and you have to know that it is ok. " It was great advice and gave me much needed perspective on my life, my past, how I feel about myself, what I need from others, what to do with guilt and what I should do when challenges come my way.
So to TIME....for all the good and all of the bad and all the time I have left........it is now time to take "me time" on this Sunday night before another week passes me by.....
Best friend, worst enemy.
Here I am with 32 days left of my first year of teaching, where did the time go?
Where did this year go?
How much time does it take to learn life lessons?
Time heals, it moves forward, it hurts, it teaches you things, there is never enough of it, it makes you appreciate people, it gives you purpose, you wish you could turn it back, you pray you never have to live it again, you yearn for more of it, you wish it would speed up, you wish it would slow down...time, it's here to stay.
I think the most important lesson I learned this year is patience. Patience with myself, with the people in my life, with my past, with my future, with my students, with my parents, with my friends. Patience, that tomorrow will be better. Patience, in dealing with troublesome students. Patience, in dealing with myself, my self-image, my perfectionist personality, my struggle with change and sensitivity. Patience, in waiting for new people to come into my life that help me find happiness and embrace these crazy years in my early twenties. Patience, in the fact that not everything has to get done today, not every worksheet will be error free, not ever lesson will go smoothly. Patience, in that I will make mistakes, I will say the wrong things, I will treat people the way they shouldn't be treated, but have the patience to go back and say the right things, and repave the rocky the road.
My trip to Florida was wonderful, it showed me how much I deserve to treat myself well, and give myself vacations and time with friends. I deserve it. I come back to the last leg of school, and while exhausted and overwhelmed, I am feeling excited and accomplished that my chosen career was an overall great success. And while pink slips go out on Friday, I pray that my job is secure and that I will be at my school next year. The staff, the students, I love it. And while there are mixed feelings about administration, school politics etc, I think that could be found in any school. I feel like I found a good groove, a wonderful group of friends, and a very easy transition into and out of my first year. I am incredibly thankful I am not a intern this year, looking for jobs and going to job fairs in this economy must be hell. Michigan State had 92 less schools than last year. I heard from a friend that some interns were talking about only interviewing in one area, only looking for jobs in a few cities....what a poor life decision, do they not watch the news? Do they not want a jobs? Idiots. Priorities people. I am not saying that you may not get lucky and teach in the area you want to, but honestly, only interviewing and looking in a certain area, get over yourself. If financially you can afford your own place, please look in more than just 5 or 6 cities. Interview EVERYWHERE, you never know what will pop up, and where. That is part of life, new experiences, new places, change....you cannot get everything in life handed to you, welcome to the real world. You get a job where there is an opening....not because it is in the ideal suburban environment next to your greatest friends and cool hang outs. Teach where you will make a difference, teach in a place because it fits your major, your passion, go out a limb, spread your wings....or be an idiot and just sub your life away until you get that ideal job. And let me tell you, from experience, the ideal job in your head now, will drastically change after you have taught for a year. Good luck.
Everything happens for a reason...it is, what it is. I am me, take it or leave it. Persistence. Pro-active. Sarcastic. Meant to be. Change. Better people. Better me. I spent so long wondering if I made the wrong choice student teaching back home, I spent so long wondering weather or not teaching back in my home district was a good idea, I spent so long re-wishing I could do it over. Until now. I realized that student teaching back home, allowed me to make contacts I never would have been able to up at STATE. It allowed me to form life-long friendships with people I would never have even seen otherwise. People that have completely changed my view of life, challenges, the future, meaning of family and relationships, and connection. My student teaching gave me an experience that was not in SPARKLE VALLEY, it showed me the realities of urban education, in a positive environment, that showed how much teachers care about giving all students an equal education, passionate about their students, and taught me skills in classroom management, lesson plans, and assessment that were all brought with me this year and made my first year easier than any other first year teacher I have heard of. I don't take back the rough year for anything, in hindsight, because of the better person and teacher it made me. I don't think that people with the typical "perfect" school experience in student teaching, will be as prepared in their first year, nor be able to relate to the vast student population and parents they will encounter. I feel lucky to have had this.
I also feel that it was exactly what was meant to be, to be at my school. Comfort of my old teachers around me, allowed me to stay home and save a lot of money this year, and I have met some great colleagues who have become wonderful friends that have not only helped me out tremendously as mentors and given me wonderful ideas professionally, but have become truly great friends and have supported me in ways I could never begin to thank them for. Life experience, advice, support, a listening ear, perspective, and of course a sense of humor....allowing me to completely be myself and not feel bad talking things out when life gets messy. If I didn't take the path I took, I never would have met them, and I know they came into my life just at the right time, and for just the right reason.
Time and teachers. There is never enough of it as a a teacher, grading, assessment, after school activities. But there is also so much time to get to know the kids and form relationships with them. My job allows me to work with AWESOME kids filled with so much potential, I feel so fortunate to be a part of their lives and to do the job I do. I feel extraordinary lucky that will all my time spent in the public schools system, I came across teachers that have forever changed my life.....they believed in me when I ceased to believe in myself. They read through 4 page emails I sent home from college, they helped me maintain that every desired 4.0 GPA, they gave me confidence, they supported me through student teaching, they went out on a limb for me, they continue to support me and believe in me and still instill a sense of confidence that I could never have on my own. Their compassion for me as a person, who I am, and who I am striving to be shows me what true friendship can come out of my chosen profession and colleague support. It also shows me that I will be unconditionally supported by these people, some of whom I have known since I was 11 years old, for the rest of my life. And with how I have felt in the past, this is very comforting.
As far as relationships go, I have learned that distance has very little to do the value and strength of relationships. I was made to feel very badly for very long because I viewed distance from friends as a bad thing. I was made to feel that I couldn't share negative things I was going through, because people in my life had no room for negativity. I was made out to be this horrible, angry, jealous person because I just needed support and reassurance. What I have learned, is that distance has actually strengthened my friendships. While I miss my MSU friends and high school friends and friends that have moved away desperately, and it was a transition not seeing them everyday, once we moved away from each other, I realized what good friends we really were. A phone call every time a new first happened, a e-mail and surprise visit when we could tell something was not right, visits are as if no time has passed at all, distance gave us the room to grow as people travel our own paths meet new people, friends, boyfriends, yet still come back to the comforts of our friendship. True passion for each others well being, solid in our values for our friendship, unbreakable listening and communcation skills, and wonderful support, advice, memories and laughter. As I look at my future, I know there are may unknowns....graduate school, moving out, marriage, travel, kids...this group of friends have taught me what I deserve, who I am, that I should not be afraid to stand up for what I believe in, they have supported me and listened through every bad event, and stressful situation. I no longer hide things out of fear that it will rip apart our friendships...instead it makes us stronger. There are no secrets, no off limit topics, they have proved time and time again, that I am never alone, no matter what the situation....in a future that is so unknown it is wonderful to know that as independent as they have helped me become, I also know they will always be by my side.
Time. I have a lot left to experience with my time here. There is a lot left to learn, a lot left to enjoy, and I have not mastered appreciating every moment. Life gets crazy and hectic and I get overwhelmed and stressed out. But, that is what tomorrow is for. I always remain hopeful that I will have a lot more time to learn from life, learn from my relationships. Time to enjoy my future family and grandparents and my career. Time to heal from mistakes and past betrayals, and time to rebuild and form new realtionships. Time to enjoy my accomplishments, time to accomplish life goals, time to just breath, and read a book. Time to help others in need, and time to support others when they need me.
Right now, it's time to think that with time, everything will work out exactly as it should. I am strong-willed, and confident, and sensitive, and compassionate and a bit OCD....but time has taught me that all of that is ok because it makes me who I am.
Time taught me that I could not just stop my life and dwell on the negative and the what-ifs and why, and why bad things happen to good people, and try and change other people....no, because I was starting to forget all the good, all the positive, all I had going for me, the best of myself....no one can make me forget, ignore or betray the best of who I am. I recieved some really great advice from a friend that said "You should never feel that you have to apologize for how you are feeling or why you are feeling that way. Whether you are having rational or irrational feelings, they are what they are, and you have to know that it is ok. " It was great advice and gave me much needed perspective on my life, my past, how I feel about myself, what I need from others, what to do with guilt and what I should do when challenges come my way.
So to TIME....for all the good and all of the bad and all the time I have left........it is now time to take "me time" on this Sunday night before another week passes me by.....
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