"Maturity begins when we're content to feel we're right about something without feeling the necessity to prove someone else wrong."
Isn't true? Remember back to kindergarten, arguing with a friend, I am right, no...I am right...no I am right and you are wrong. Middle school.....he is wrong, I am right...right? I said that, my parents told me, so I am right, you are wrong. I believe this, I always have, you believe something different, so you are wrong. High school....I believe she lied to him, I don't believe it...I am loyal to my friend so I am going to believe her, she is right, you are wrong. I am popular so I am right and you are wrong. College...I believe I am right because of x, y and z...and you are wrong because of x, y, and z...ahh now there is evidence and research to back up how one feels. But when in life, do we feel that we are right about something, happy with that choice and feeling, without having to say he/she is wrong because she holds the opposite opinion. Why is it always he is wrong, I am right....what about I am right because in my heart I know I am right, I know I did the right thing, I made the right decision...regardless of what others think? Why are we so convinced we have to prove someone else wrong, in order to feel justifed that we are right? Do we crave people pleasing that much? Are we that lacking in confidence? When do we stop picking sides, and just doing what is right?
I think it has to do with experience, life experience, how you feel about yourself, your connection with others, your connection with yourself. What you want out of your life, the kind of person you want to be, the kind of life you want to live. I don't want to be a mirror image of someone, I don't want to join a community that tells me what to believe, I don't want to match physically or mentally those around me, I don't want to agree with my closest friends, just because they are my closest friends...and what, if I disagree with them, they will leave the friendship, the relationship? That is not the kind of life I want to lead, nor the relationships I wish to have. I want to challenge a friend, a boyfriend, be challenged back, and still have the relationship remain intact. We should both be content with our choices, decisions and opinions without having to prove the other person wrong. I think that people who determine what is right based on convenience of what others think is right, or based on proving someone else wrong, based on what is convenient at the time, based on avoiding reality, based on avoiding confrontation, based on avoiding "rocking the boat", based on messing up a seemingly perfect romance, friendship, marriage etc...these are weak minded people, immature people, not bad people...just people who have a lot to learn about life.
I have questioned the rights and wrongs of life over the past year, the justices and injustices. And after sleepless nights, self-questioning, lost relationships, new relationships, confirmations, guidance, support...I connected with myself..who I was as a person, as a friend, who I was in MY LIFE. And I realized that if I feel right about something, I shouldn't feel guilty, and I shouldn't feel like I have to prove someone else wrong....it is their decision, their choice, their life. I am content, I am happy, with my choices, the path I have chosen, the relationships I have, the life I am living. I feel right about the tough choices I had to make this past year, I feel right about the words I said, the feelings I had, the job I chose, the truth I told....and the furthest thing from my mind is what everyone else thinks, or wasting energy trying to prove everyone else wrong, I am happy with choices, my lessons, that I feel RIGHT about a lot of tough decisions that were made last year, and I plan to continue this path of maturity, into the new year. Go with your heart, go with your gut, feel right, do what is best for you, live YOUR OWN best life.
I think it has to do with experience, life experience, how you feel about yourself, your connection with others, your connection with yourself. What you want out of your life, the kind of person you want to be, the kind of life you want to live. I don't want to be a mirror image of someone, I don't want to join a community that tells me what to believe, I don't want to match physically or mentally those around me, I don't want to agree with my closest friends, just because they are my closest friends...and what, if I disagree with them, they will leave the friendship, the relationship? That is not the kind of life I want to lead, nor the relationships I wish to have. I want to challenge a friend, a boyfriend, be challenged back, and still have the relationship remain intact. We should both be content with our choices, decisions and opinions without having to prove the other person wrong. I think that people who determine what is right based on convenience of what others think is right, or based on proving someone else wrong, based on what is convenient at the time, based on avoiding reality, based on avoiding confrontation, based on avoiding "rocking the boat", based on messing up a seemingly perfect romance, friendship, marriage etc...these are weak minded people, immature people, not bad people...just people who have a lot to learn about life.
I have questioned the rights and wrongs of life over the past year, the justices and injustices. And after sleepless nights, self-questioning, lost relationships, new relationships, confirmations, guidance, support...I connected with myself..who I was as a person, as a friend, who I was in MY LIFE. And I realized that if I feel right about something, I shouldn't feel guilty, and I shouldn't feel like I have to prove someone else wrong....it is their decision, their choice, their life. I am content, I am happy, with my choices, the path I have chosen, the relationships I have, the life I am living. I feel right about the tough choices I had to make this past year, I feel right about the words I said, the feelings I had, the job I chose, the truth I told....and the furthest thing from my mind is what everyone else thinks, or wasting energy trying to prove everyone else wrong, I am happy with choices, my lessons, that I feel RIGHT about a lot of tough decisions that were made last year, and I plan to continue this path of maturity, into the new year. Go with your heart, go with your gut, feel right, do what is best for you, live YOUR OWN best life.
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