Spirituality

Spirituality isn't just about being nice. It's about transforming our not-so-nice qualities.

Always remember, it's not our positive traits that flip on the Light switch. The Light goes on when we identify, uproot and transform our reactive negative characteristics.

What light switch can you flip on today?

I told myself for years, I am a good person, with a good heart. I always try to do the right thing, spread kindness and generosity, wear my heart on my sleeve. Yes, I get hurt, but I have always felt that all of my positive characteristics make me feel good, despite the sometimes unwanted consequences. Recently though, I have taken a look at myself in a different way. Past the perfectionist that I will always be, past the kindness, past the sense of humor, past the good friend, good daughter, good girlfriend, and looked at connecting with myself in a different way. Looking at my negative traits. Now, I hesitated doing this, because after suffering from low self esteem, and never feeling quite good enough for most of my life, why would I focus on the negative characteristics of myself....when I already had been doing it for so long. Well, as the spirituality saying suggests, spirituality, connecting with yourself and with others isn´t just about being nice, considerate, a good hearted, listening ear, best version of yourself. In order to reach that level of spirituality, in order to be your best person, you have to look at your negative qualities in order to grow, learn, become the best version of ourselves. As I started to look at things from that angle, I soon realized some traits I was not so proud of, and as I began to come to terms with them, I realized how much they affected all areas of my life..the people, the events, the circumstances. And now, it is my job, to transform myself, transform those charactersitics, live a better life, apologize. Now, it is imperative to be careful, not to blame myself. There is a difference between blaming yourself for your negative traits and learning and growing from them. That is my new personal goal....transforming negative traits, looking at myself from an outsiders perspective, what do others see in me that I don´t see in myself, the good and the bad, and transforming into the best version of myself....it will be an interesting journey, and one that I think we could all benefit from doing.

Today, look at yourself in a different way. Identity the good and the bad. Look at how others perceive you and your actions. Become the best version of yourself, by looking at yourself through another lens. Transform even just one negative trait, transform one negative circumstance into a positive one. Apologize if you must, to set things right. And strive to become the best version of yourself, in the best version of your life.